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Supervising an Employee with Suicidal Concerns

Suicide is a significant cause of death among Americans, and no one is exempt from the problem. Though there are differences in suicide rates based on such factors as age, gender, and ethnicity, a person from any background may attempt suicide or go through a period of seriously contemplating it.

People considering suicide often have been "worn down" by many stresses and problems. Actual or expected loss, especially a love relationship, is often a contributing factor. A person experiencing suicidal thoughts is frequently lonely and without a solid support system. Sometimes this is a long-term characteristic of the person; in other cases a geographic move, death, or a divorce may deprive an individual of personal ties that were formerly supportive.

Listen carefully to what your employees say—people thinking about suicide often give hints about their intentions. Talking about not being present in the future, giving away prized possessions, and making funeral plans are examples of possible hints of suicidal intent. If you hear such talk, question it, kindly but firmly. You won't make the situation worse by clarifying it, and an open conversation with you may be the person's first step toward getting well.

Be alert to changes in behavior. Deterioration in job performance, personal appearance, punctuality, or other habits can be a sign of many problems, including suicidal concerns.

If an Employee Admits to Thinking About Suicide

You'll want to get your employee to professional help, and the way you do this is very important. The way you approach the issue can have an impact on the employee's willingness to receive professional help. Your respect and concern for the employee can contribute to the healing process:

• First offer your own personal concern and support. Let the person know you care—the employee is both a unique human being and a valued member of your team.
• Show understanding of the employee's pain and despair, but offer hope that, with appropriate help, solutions can be found for the problems that are leading the person to feel so desperate.
• Ask whether any of the employee's problems are work related, and, if so, take initiative in attacking those problems. For example, the employee may feel improperly trained for key responsibilities, or they may be having difficulties with leave or some similar issue without having made you aware of it. If you can act as an advocate in remedying some of these problems, you will help in three ways—removing one source of pain, showing concretely that someone cares, and offering hope that other problems can also be solved.
• Do not question the employee about personal problems, as the individual may wish to keep them out of the workplace, but listen with empathy if the employee chooses to share them.
• Do not offer advice, but acknowledge that the problems are real and painful.
• Protect the employee's privacy with regard to other employees. This will require thought and planning, as questions are sure to arise. When dealing with higher management, you need to think clearly about what they actually need to know (e.g. that the employee is temporarily working a reduced schedule on medical advice)—as opposed to what they don't need to know (e.g. intimate personal information that the employee may have confided in you as the immediate supervisor).
• Without hovering over the employee, show your continued support and interest. Make it clear that the individual is an important part of the team and plays a key role in mission accomplishment.

Get help.

As a general rule, anyone feeling enough pain to be considering suicide should be referred to a mental health professional, at least for evaluation. Make it clear that you want the employee to get the best possible help and that some types of assistance are outside your own area of competence:

• Usually, the employee support program is the referral source for mental health assistance. If the employee consents, call the support program yourself, emphasizing that the situation is serious and needs timely attention.
• If for some reason the employee support program is not immediately available, turn to your community's crisis intervention or suicide prevention resource. These are normally listed with other emergency numbers in the telephone book and are often available on a 24-hour basis. The service available nationwide is the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at Link opens in a new windowhttps://988lifeline.org.
• Should there appear to be immediate danger, do not hesitate to call 911 or your agency's security officials.

Take care of yourself.

Providing support to a person with suicidal thoughts is stressful, and you should take positive steps to preserve your own mental health while you help your employee. You should not hesitate to get support for yourself, either from your own supervisor or from the employee support program.