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Setting Realistic Goals
Setting Realistic Goals
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Do you ever wonder why it seems you're busy all the time but don't get nearly enough done? Or maybe you dread the New Year because it only reminds you that last year's resolutions got lost along the way. Many people struggle with feelings of failure just because they fall short of their goals. What they probably don't realize is that those feelings usually start as a result of setting unclear or unrealistic goals at the start. How can you be sure you are setting realistic goals for yourself?
First, remember that goals are your choice and they're not carved in stone. Realistic goals are flexible. Think of it as trip planning to reach a final destination. Sometimes you'll take the fastest and the straightest path, other times you might choose a more scenic route. Often, you change your plans along the way as circumstances and opportunities change. The key is to wind up where you wanted to go.
Second, if your goal involves major change, break it down into smaller steps. If you want to save a thousand dollars, it's usually easier to put away three dollars a day.
Third, write it down; even if no one ever sees it but you. And don't just write it down and stash it away; use it to make daily or weekly "to do” lists. It will help keep you focused and it will provide instant encouragement every time you are able to cross something off because it's complete.
Setting realistic goals for yourself should never make you feel trapped. In fact, if your plan is well thought out, it can actually be quiet liberating. Instead of wearing yourself out everyday only to fall in bed wondering if you actually accomplished anything, you will be able to relax with the knowledge that you've got a good plan, you made even some small progress, and you are on your way to success.
I'm Dr. Richard Flannigan.